I’ve said so before and I’ll do it again I’m a sucker for a good romance story, and when we are talking about romance is unavoidable to discuss what really makes up a good story. One of the key points in my opinion, it’s how a relationship develops. To me as a reader is much more enjoyable to see a couple grow, to go from point A to B progressively, instead of an out of the blue I’ll die without you kind of love.
In this little rambling of mine I want to talk about Insta- love and Slow Burning, these are two very common subjects for those of us who enjoy a little romance mixed in our books.
When we talked about Insta-Love we are referring to that type of relationship that starts just by making eye contact, It’s like I just saw you and, Bam! I can’t live without you. It doesn’t matter what genre you read it’s quite common to find some example of this everywhere from Fantasy to Paranormal to Contemporary.
I´ve come across a couple of different types of Insta- love in books and to be honest It really isn’t my cup of tea, because I find it incredibly unrealistic and false (in some cases it’s so over the top that it ends up being a bit ridiculous). Who really falls in love in a second? That first look and the chemistry that might follow is just the start of something nothing more. But I do get, that’s it a romantic notion so I put up with it to some extent which leads me to those Insta-Lovey tropes that I can tolerate. For instance:
- The Mating Bond
Quite common in some Fantasy, Paranormal and Urban Fantasy books. What it means it’s that due to some Magic/Fate You have one person out there that it’s the only one for you, no other will do. In this case I have found a few books that I didn’t hate too much even with this premise because the relationship was at least biologically justified. I mean Vampires that needed one type of blood or Were creatures that are guided by instinct.
- The Dark Meet
I’m putting under here all those Dark themes books that begin a relationship with traumatic events, (kidnappings, Criminal environments, Drugs) because we can argue about mental state in this cases and justify this type of “I can’t breathe without you” feelings that might develop quite fast. It’s not healthy, we know that, but sometimes we loved them anyway because it certainly make up an interesting and quite angsty story.
These are two examples of Insta-love that I can swallow in my books (It’s not something I look for but if it’s there I won’t put down the book because of it)
Slow Burning Romance
My favorite kind of trope (if I can call it that). When we talk about slow burning it means those relationship that develop over time, it might take just a whole book or maybe a couple of them in a series for the main couple to get together.It can also be found in every genre (fantasy, contemporary, paranormal) It might start as an enemies to lovers, friends to lovers or merely strangers but we get to see the characters getting to know each other, finding common ground, developing a friendship or just accepting an underlining attraction.
These are exactly the ones I love reading about, although I must say that I don’t like it when it gets extremely dragged out ( I don’t want to wait 6 books for a couple to get together)
In my case, my favorite it’s the slow burning enemies to lovers because of all the explosive chemistry and angst that they usually have (when they are done right) but that involves a few other things that I’ll discuss in a later post.
What are your favorites? Do you like Inst-love stories or are you like me and love the slow burning romances? Let me know in the comments