Fade to Black, Steammy or Cringe Worthy?? — Let’s talk about sex (in Books)

Hey guys! I have a controversial topic for our discussion today — I’m talking about SEX… I’m sorry but I just got a flashback for that Salt-and-Pepa song and can’t get it out of my head now… I hate when that happens…

But let’s get back on track here, I’m a romance reader and obviously a lot of the content in most of the books I read it’s related to sex (And no, I’m not just reading Erotica — no shaming allowed here, okay?)

But it has always intrigued me how different people relate to sexual content, in some cases it’s consider worse having an explicit sex scene than when you have a graphic and gory depiction of violence… and that makes me bonkers…

I do understand the need to have age appropriate content (even if in reality our kids probably know more about sex than we do) but it needs to be considered that we don’t want our 8-year-old reading smut — I agree and understand that.. But it shouldn’t be always used as an excuse to attack books because they do incorporate sex in them — Shouldn’t it be the parents job to monitor what their kids are reading?? I wonder….

But let’s get back to talking about those times when we are all age approved, sort of speak, and we still judge a book because it has either too little or too much sex in it..

Yep believe it or not people do complain (not often) when a book doesn’t have a few sex scenes in it .. it’s a rare occurence but I’ve seen it…

I know that some of the scenes are ridiculous to read and therefore get mocked, a lot, .. I find most historicals (old ones specially) hilarious with all the euphemisms for the different body parts.. there’s no lack of flowery parts there let me tell you (petals, steams, bushes, you name it)… But even if that’s the case, they manage to work (oddly enough) with the atmosphere of the book (in most cases) So I don’t have a problem with them.. At the very least they give a good laugh..

I don’t judge either if an author feels the need to use the fade to black resource because he/she just doesn’t want the headache of having to write an actual sex scene… because guys it isn’t easy, finding the perfect balance between emotion and physicality and having it translate into the page it’s a complicated thing… Have you ever tried it? I think people should do that before jumping on the critiquing wagon…

Which is probably why It upsets me so much when I have the misfortune of coming across some narrow-minded comments about “this book is just porn..or whatever”

It’s not that, at all…Just because a book have sex scenes it isn’t porn..  I know that there are books out there like that (it’s called Erotica and even some of those are great and its readers deserve respect so what if you are in the mood for just the romp and not the angst?? there’s nothing wrong with that) We like what we like whether it’s little to no sex, or just the good old wow bow chicca wow wow..

I’m sure that by now you guys know that I don’t have an issue with sex in my books, even the flowery, cringe worthy kind or the hardly there variety… as long as it  fits with the story, adding to the relationship, or giving us the completion we look for…

But I’m curious to know where your thoughts are… Are you bothered by the sex scenes in your books?? Do they make you laugh or recoil in disgust? Let me know in the comments below and let the discussion begin…

As Always

Happy Reading